Verbal judo

redirecting behavior with words

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George J. Thompson: Verbal judo (1994, Institute of Police Technology and Management)

Paperback, 140 pages

English language

Published Sept. 30, 1994 by Institute of Police Technology and Management.

ISBN:
978-1-884566-15-8
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OCLC Number:
36789730

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2 stars (1 review)

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2 stars

[November 2018 update: I just noticed there's a Second Edition. Please note that my review is for the First; I have not read the Second, so please do not be discouraged from reading that because of my review.]

This is material I need to recommend; I just can't recommend this book. At least not to my friends, not to the people I hang out with or care about. Read [b:Nonviolent Communication|71730|Nonviolent Communication A Language of Life|Marshall B. Rosenberg|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1386925124s/71730.jpg|2766138] instead. Please.

Verbal Judo is... disturbing. It's about communication, but the undertone is about lying and pretending to empathize in order to get people to do what you want:

"The other person will believe you're trying to understand. Whether you really are interested is irrelevant." (p.81)



Halfway through the book, I almost abandoned it. I was feeling upset, dejected, cheapened. But I persisted, picking it up again after a day. Now I …

Subjects

  • Interpersonal communication
  • Persuasion (Rhetoric)
  • Persuasion (Psychology)
  • Influence (Psychology)
  • Social conflict