Review of 'The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability' on 'Goodreads'
I hoped for more. It's good that a book like this is written, and it had a lot of good information in it, but the title seems to be too ambitious for what it read like to me. Maybe it says more about me and the things I've read than about the book, but I didn't learn anything new from it.
The audio version didn't do the book good, all the interview fragments didn't stand out from the general text and I was often left with the impression, that I'm reading something from a person who is poor, man, arthritic, lesbian, rich, half paralysed, etc. Not a good impression when it's so many people with so many different conditions.
I found it had way too much on the BDSM scene (of New York?) for such a general and supposedly introductory guide, hardly any mention of any other fetishes, and a …
I hoped for more. It's good that a book like this is written, and it had a lot of good information in it, but the title seems to be too ambitious for what it read like to me. Maybe it says more about me and the things I've read than about the book, but I didn't learn anything new from it.
The audio version didn't do the book good, all the interview fragments didn't stand out from the general text and I was often left with the impression, that I'm reading something from a person who is poor, man, arthritic, lesbian, rich, half paralysed, etc. Not a good impression when it's so many people with so many different conditions.
I found it had way too much on the BDSM scene (of New York?) for such a general and supposedly introductory guide, hardly any mention of any other fetishes, and a dismissal of the term "asexual", as if sex was something inherently good for all people.
I'm left with the feeling that for problems that were discussed (lack of privacy, lack of access to internet) there were no tangible answers provided.
It's a good book in that it reassures people with disabilities, that they are still adults and it's all right for them to want sex, that sex takes meny differnet forms and sexual experiences don't need to be of just the one heteronormative vaginal penetration kind, and probably some forms can be found that accomodate any kind of disability. It's a good book in that it cites many peoples different experiences and assures that noone is alone in that. It's a good book for mentioning kink can be a normal part of sexuality too.
I guess I just had too high expectations for a book with "the Ultimate" in it's title and all I'm disagreeing with is the balance between the topics discussed.