#masculinity

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Noah Berlatsky asks,

"Why … do progressives let conservatives frame the problem with men as a 'crisis of masculinity' even as they acknowledge that masculinity has always been a crisis?"

His answer: It's "because of a widespread cultural disdain for femininity, and a widespread elevation of masculinity."

I think he's absolutely correct about this. And this bias is as determative for the thinking of "liberals" as conservatives.

https://www.everythingishorrible.net/p/there-isnt-a-crisis-of-masculinity?

I think what I like most about being male are the little things:

Feeling my long hair on my back when I go shirtless

Gently pushing my strength to lift or carry something further than I think I can, and delightedly finding out I can do it

That first bit of stubble on the day after shaving my face, before it gets longer and annoying

Putting on a fresh clean pair of boxer briefs

An effective don't-bother-me forcefield

Playing around with jewelry as a guy - - I wear less, but each piece means more

The smell of rubbing alcohol on shot days

Found this 13 year old video on a site. Gotta hand it to Balistik cause it squeezed a tear out of me.
Vid: Even Dogs Dream by Balistik94
Music:NIN Everyday is exactly the same
Warning: Blood, Gun Violence

It was likely the movie that got me, because it portrays how men are made into weapons. A type of that I won't call toxic as much as dehumanizing when it happens. Those affected can not access their emotions and become.. less. Yet we still do it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t2NGWfo63T8

How Upper Lips Got Stiff

The truism that “boys don’t cry” is a Western social convention. and imperialism made sure it spread East.

by Isti Bhattacharya, March 8, 2023

"These rigid notions of crystallized with English . The young men sent to serve as administrators in the colonies were meticulously trained to cultivate a 'stiff upper lip,' often through public school education. Elite institutions such as Eton, Harrow, and Radley monitored students and crafted regimentation marked by corporal punishments and intensive sports such as rugby and gymnastics. Literature about public schools is replete with instances of rampant bullying. [...] 'To be hurt was to be stung and if to the point of tears, stung up; crying was blubbing, a word of abysmal contempt'.

"Stoicism in the face of loss had become such an indispensable part of the English personality that the phrase ‘stiff upper …