This book was so validating for me! I'd long dealt with the anxious attachment style without even realizing it. And this is coming from a psychology graduate, so, that shows you how in depth my education was.

Before I knew about it, I just knew there was a cycle I went through with romantic interests: I'd be interested in them, they'd be my entire world, I'd panic when I wasn't in contact with them. They wouldn't respond to my needs, I'd lash out and things would be over. I legit thought I was crazy and doomed to repeat this cycle forever.

And I sure felt judged by society when I said I didn't feel right without a partner in my life. Person after person, professionals included, said I needed to "love myself" and I always thought that was a bunch of fortune cookie fanfare. But they convinced me they were right, so I felt like I had to fake it until I made it.

This book gave me answers, and it gave me hope. There was plenty of times I nearly burst into tears because it was so on the nose. So, screw what the culture is telling you. Screw the lies your anxiety and depression are telling you. You deserve love, people are out there who will love you just for doing what you're already doing.

But this book isn't about platitudes. It actually gives helpful worksheets and steps you can take to trick your attachment system from freaking out. They're very concrete and measurable steps, which is helpful for me.

This book will absolutely help you if you found any of yourself in reading my review. And my hope is that it will be just as reassuring, validating, and helpful for you as it has for me.