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This book is utterly appalling. Imagine being the kind of person who writes a book about trans people, claims it's NOT about trans people, and fails to consult any trans people about it, whatsoever.

This book makes a ridiculous amount of unfounded claims from poorly researched sources, implies that trans women are merely men with a bunch of fetishes, designed to invade women's spaces, further claims that gender identity clinics are grooming children to their own agenda, makes some really, really offensive statements about chattel slavery, compares the struggles of Black people and how women's struggles should be compared to theirs in totally inappropriate contexts, completely denies that non binary and other people outside the gender binary are even valid, and a whole mess of other complete crap. In one moment she claims non binary identities are a a novel idea (they're not), and in another, she uses sources of non binary people from non western cultures in a historical context, whilst still somehow claiming we aren't real.

It's an absolute mess.

Someone else has touched on the anti Semitic aspects of the book in another review, so please be sure to read the other low star ones.

This book is absolutely brilliant. It's written for EVERYONE who experiences menopause, because menopause does not just happen to straight white middle class women, contrary to what mainstream literature will promote. This book is INCLUSIVE, and uses language and explanations for people outside the gender binary, making sure to include the experiences of BIPOC folks, disabled folks, and more. A LOT of It made me laugh, cry, yell WHAT THE HELL at the crap patriarchy has inflicted on anyone going through menopause, and a whole spectrum of emotions and reactions. I was actually able to read the physical book too, thanks to the hormones I've been taking, because my brain has been so fried. I hadn't been able to physically read, or write anything of worth for so long. I've always been a big fan of audiobooks, and I do use them, but when I realised I couldn't concentrate on reading a physical book, I was absolutely gutted. Nothing about this is easy, but reading this taught me much more than the healthcare literature I've digested so far. Please please please read it, Heather is FANTASTIC.