Reviews and Comments

Some great ideas but much stronger for professional gatherings -- I don't feel like every personal gathering needs a deep, disputable purpose. For all that Parker disdains the term, sometimes people DO just want to hang out.

Apparently I read this some time in 2023, and then forgot about it. Went to read my new copy, and it felt strangely familiar. Indeed, it's twin is sitting on the shelf in my bookcase. How very apt.

I love Sarah Gailey - the rawness; the way her characters transcend the rules for femininity even to the reader's discomfort. This was great, twisty, reflective and quick-paced. What does identity mean? How much are we shaped by who we are versus what happens to us?

No one does sentimentality like Backman. He just toes the line of twee, has a lot to say about good people stuck in bad systems and just makes the most likeable characters ever.

This was fascinating— Ronson combines personally interviews with people notoriously shamed on the internet, work with psychology experts and a ton of first person journalism to explore shaming and our responses. There’s no easy answers here — in the afterword he says basically “some people prioritize ideology over humans; I prefer humans” and that captures a lot of this book: there’s a lot of humanity here. Which means a lot of care for human beings and thoughtful approaches to not what “feels right” but actually helps people do right. There’s not shaming of shamers, either — Ronson is also honest about his own temptations to scoff at people over the internet. For such a firebrand of a topic it’s calm and personalized. And very readable.

NK Jemisin is an epic world-builder. She crafts worlds that make so much internal sense that she can then write an entire book about what it means to live in the margins between the communities or not fit into them, and because we get the world so well it makes sense. As someone who loves interstitial spaces, I loved this book about people who are trying to figure out where they fit into the world when they don't quite fit into the previously made boxes

The first book was a delightful fantasy take on urbanism and politics. Now it’s all a little too real and a little too raw and reading about it just hurts.