More than two

a practical guide to ethical polyamory

by Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert

480 pages

English language

Published Aug. 10, 2014

ISBN:: 978-0-9913997-0-3
OCLC Number:: 878396611

(10 reviews)

Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. Now the new book More Than Two can help you find your own way. With completely new material and a fresh approach, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert wrote More Than Two to expand on and update the themes and ideas in the wildly popular polyamory website morethantwo.com.

From Ancient Greece through the many dynasties of China to current practices of non-monogamy, people have openly engaged in multiple intimate relationships. Not until the late 20th century, however, was a word coined that encapsulated the practice, as well as its philosophies, edicts and ethics: polyamory (poly = many + amore = love).

For Franklin Veaux, who has been polyamorous for his entire adult life, the emerging framework and subsequent vocabulary for his lifestyle was …

For Franklin Veaux, who has been polyamorous for his entire adult life, the emerging framework and subsequent vocabulary for his lifestyle was a light in the dark. Candidly sharing his experiences and thoughts online catapulted his website morethantwo.com, among the first dedicated to the poly lifestyle, to one of the top-ranking on the subject.

In recent years, as more people have discovered polyamory as a legitimate and desirable option for how they conduct their relationships, Franklin and one of his partners, Eve Rickert, saw that there was a growing need for a comprehensive guide to the lifestyle. More Than Two is that guide.

This wide-ranging resource explores the often-complex world of living polyamorously: the nuances (no, this isn't swinging), the relationship options (do you suit a V, an N, an open network?), the myths (don't count on wild orgies and endless sex but don't rule them out either!) and the expectations (communication, transparency and trust are paramount). More Than Two is entirely without judgment and peppered with a good dose of humor. In it the authors share not only their hard-won philosophies about polyamory, but also their hurts and embarrassments. Living poly is not always an easy road, and they hope that by reading this book, you'll avoid some of the mistakes they've made along the way.

Challenging the notion of what society considers a healthy and successful relationship, they offer up personal stories from their own lives as well as of those in the wider poly world, emphasizing that this lifestyle choice isn't for the noncommittal. Polyamory is all about the relationships and the individuals participating. Charting a Relationship Bill of Rights, the authors underscore the importance of engaging in ethical polyamory and guide readers through the thorny issues of jealousy and insecurity with the aim of encouraging readers to work consistently and conscientiously on both their relationships and themselves.

And no, they're not trying to convert you: they know that polyamory isn't for everyone. Veaux and Rickert simply provide those who might be embarking on this lifestyle or those who have always known they are poly with a set of tools and many questions to help them make informed decisions and set them on a path to enjoying multiple happy, strong, enriching relationships.

More Than Two is the book the polyamory community has been waiting for. And who knows? It may just be the book you didn't even know you were waiting for.

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Alephis reviewed More than two by Franklin Veaux

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5 stars

Libro BÁSICO y elemental para iniciarse en el Poliamor y el mundo de las ENMs. Recomendado incluso antes que "The Ethical Slut."

En una mezcla genial de teoría y anécdotas sobre la práctica extensiva de los modelos relacionales alternativos, vas a encontrar explicadas todas tus dudas y cubiertas todas tus inseguridades o ignorancia sobre todo lo relacionado al poliamor.

Es un libro que see lee con calma y de a ratos y que parece que no va a terminar nunca, pero no porque sea denso o malo sino porque cubre tantas historias, tantas variantes y tantas anécdotas que te va a llevar por todos los caminos: el de los aciertos qué tendrás e incluso de los errores que ya cometiste antes de leer el libro.

Si lo leen antes de entrar en las ENMs se ahorraran miles de disgustos y dolores de cabeza. Leánlo con todos sus partners, discútanlo con todas sus relaciones. Los ayudará a ser mejores y a resolver dudas que ni sabían que tenían. Les enseñará a amar desde la seguridad y la abundancia en lugar de desde la vergüenza y el miedo.

Me atrevo a decir que las palabras finales podrían hasta sacarles un par de lágrimas, sobre todo si no tuvieron este libro ANTES, en aquellos momentos en que estuvieron solos allí, en un abismo "más allá de la pareja", necesitando comprensión o un abrazo.