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[...] as a femme-presenting queer sex worker, the women's self-defense industry can be understood as roughly: 50 percent victim-blaming cops (or instructors who like to act like cops) teaching heteronormative women to rely further on the carceral state; 40 percent anti-violence activist feminists, some of them lesbians/queer people, sincerely trying to empower women but lacking analysis of how race and class intersect with gender violence or LGBTQ issues; and 10 percent absolute snake-oil bullshit that arrives with any money-making industry. In other words, women's self-defense, as a profit-driven industry, is a reactionary entity that relies on an unquestioned belief in the gender binary and all the nonsense that arrives with it; and, it continuously rein-scribes some of our most insidious cultural programming about why women are so vulnerable to violence while eliding the reality of queer, transgender, and nonbinary experience.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 293)

But it is also not the responsibility of the victim to heal the abuser. In our society, it is often those who are most vulnerable and victimized who bear the cross of educating the greater population on what it means to be humane, what it means to be tolerant, what it means to be kind.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 290)

"Feminist" producers tend to use aesthetics to demonize "mainstream porn." But aesthetically pleasing films are not always the result of ethical production. Ethical porn is a labor rights issue first and foremost.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 151)

On the consumer side, "feminist" porn as genre provides audiences with relief from the shame of porn consumption, an alternative that seems softer, "higher class" on many occasions, less loaded with the usual stereotypes about the mainstream industry. "Fem-inist" porn as a genre has capitalized on this layer of guilt. It has often spread the illusion that glossy aesthetics and pop feminism are all that is needed to "change" the industry, often forgetting that "change" should also happen behind cameras.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 145)

When we get fixated on the idea of feminism or ethics as a genre—a means of market differentiation-we end up buying into the fantasy that this niche is where the "good" people in the industry work, implying that there can be no abusers in our ranks.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 144)

Slapping the "feminist" label on porn doesn't mean the performers are safe from the most elemental problems of the industry. Feminism is sometimes embedded in porn as if it were an aesthetic choice, not an ethical one.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 144)

My focus as an activist is no longer to convince anyone that sex workers are people too. I did that for years and, frankly, it was exhausting. I don't have the time or energy to convince anyone that it matters if we are raped, killed, or beaten. My time and energy are devoted to building this "we" and making it better.

— We Too by Ashley Paige, Jessie Sage, Juniper Fitzgerald, and 33 others (Page 139)