It is true that desire is identifiable with difficulty, and it is even more the case for its mutual sharing. From a spatial viewpoint, would it be possible to first suggest that the masculine desire seeks to take shelter in the feminine body? If this is the case, is it in search of a union with a woman or of a regression in the mother? The way of inhabiting the inner space of the feminine body is quite different according to such an alternative: if seeking a union can exist in the first case, the man is only in search of self-affection in the second case. And, at the level of interiority, what corresponds for a man to the fact of being in the body of a woman? Has not this question been eluded by speaking of penetration, on the one part, and of reproduction, on the other part? We have no word, no logos, to say to what experience and meaning being in a body other than our own corresponds.

— Sharing the Fire by Luce Irigaray (Page 60)