Our modern conception of love simply equates it with positive emotion and passion. This is a very self-absorbed idea of love, where the emphasis is on oneself. And we can actually make relationship problems worse by interpreting the emotional turmoil that love causes as a sign that there’s something wrong.

But love is more than a feeling; it’s a way of being. And true love is facing the emotional turmoil of life’s journey – all the discomfort, confusion, and pain – hand-in-hand with a fellow traveler. It’s dynamic, scary, and profound. Once we accept it for what it is, we might just be able to enjoy the adventure a little more.

As we’ve seen, meditation can be a powerful tool for reestablishing connection with your partner on a regular basis. It helps even when you meditate alone. Simply allow your partner’s qualities to rest in your mind – see their smile, hear their laugh, and remember why you love them. If you want further guidance, check out the author’s online meditation community, the Open Heart Project, for free weekly guided meditations.