Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

marksutherland reviewed Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine

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3 stars

Sometimes you stumble across a book at just the right time in your life, but (thankfully?) this wasn't the case for me with this book, but it may well be for others.
The authors aim is to give the reader a primer on adult attachment theory that they can apply to their love life, identifying the traits of "insecure" attachment styles, common pitfalls and strategies for addressing issues (primarily "effective communication"). It could probably have gone a bit deeper into the nature of attachment styles and how they relate to childhood experiences but they clearly saw this more as dating advice than anything else. I think I learned a bit about why some people seem to struggle with relationships and gained a bit of insight into my own, but this may have been more useful for me to read a decade ago

Pentapod reviewed Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine

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3 stars

A slightly odd cross between modern psychological study and self-help. Not the type of book I normally read and I'm not sure how it got in my Audible queue, but an interesting listen. The authors (a neuroscientist and a psychologist) look at the three "attachment types" that are identified in children (anxious, secure, and avoidant) and hypothesize that these can also be applied to adults; not only in terms of romantic relationships but also in work relationships (although they talk mostly about the former). It seems a somewhat simplified view of things but still, I've definitely met people who clearly fall into these categories and it was an interesting look at one way of categorizing people's behaviour.

That said, the basics of avoidance types could have been covered in a single chapter; the authors then spend the rest of the book trying to give advice to readers based on what …

A slightly odd cross between modern psychological study and self-help. Not the type of book I normally read and I'm not sure how it got in my Audible queue, but an interesting listen. The authors (a neuroscientist and a psychologist) look at the three "attachment types" that are identified in children (anxious, secure, and avoidant) and hypothesize that these can also be applied to adults; not only in terms of romantic relationships but also in work relationships (although they talk mostly about the former). It seems a somewhat simplified view of things but still, I've definitely met people who clearly fall into these categories and it was an interesting look at one way of categorizing people's behaviour.

That said, the basics of avoidance types could have been covered in a single chapter; the authors then spend the rest of the book trying to give advice to readers based on what attachment type they have. Unfortunately, the advice seems extremely skewed towards advising "anxious" types. Although there are also two avoidant types (dismissive and fearful) these aren't covered at all, and for the most part avoidant types are only mentioned as something for anxious folks to avoid. It's not a very well balanced book. So, depending on your "type", your mileage may vary a lot!

Jill reviewed Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine

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4 stars

I found this book incredibly helpful. It explained a point of view that I often encounter, but have never understood and gave some insight into my own choices.