willowmillway reviewed Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters
"listen cis-iety!"
4 stars
i feel very good about having read this years after it was loud in the queer zeitgeist some 3 or 4 years ago. i recall much criticism aimed at what was being said; stuff about normalizing detrans and making the white trans girl experience some specially oppressed category etc. etc. heavily idpol based stuff that was ultimately dismissive of trans woman perspectives in favor of token intersectionality. once again something challenging and requiring acute empathy and openess met with defensiveness and myopia. but to the actual book itself. heartwarming, gutwrenching, touching, full of yearning, and devastating. what is easy to miss is that stories like this dont come to being ex nihilo, they are based heavily in the experience of the author and in the anecdotes of real people that they collect. what this story conveys feels absolutely true and real. it fragments the dominant narrative of queer life and …
i feel very good about having read this years after it was loud in the queer zeitgeist some 3 or 4 years ago. i recall much criticism aimed at what was being said; stuff about normalizing detrans and making the white trans girl experience some specially oppressed category etc. etc. heavily idpol based stuff that was ultimately dismissive of trans woman perspectives in favor of token intersectionality. once again something challenging and requiring acute empathy and openess met with defensiveness and myopia. but to the actual book itself. heartwarming, gutwrenching, touching, full of yearning, and devastating. what is easy to miss is that stories like this dont come to being ex nihilo, they are based heavily in the experience of the author and in the anecdotes of real people that they collect. what this story conveys feels absolutely true and real. it fragments the dominant narrative of queer life and transfemme life into a plethora of different lives. it is an expression of the impossibilty of this life chosen. it takes seriously the idea that nothing is given, life can change or end as suddenly as it began and this is truth for the queer subaltern. to live this way is to live without hope, without futurity. there is a persistent cynicism that isn't a brainworm endemic to trans women, its contrarily reality itself as lived from that position. without hope there is only the next step ahead and helping each other to take the next ad infinitum. detransition is represented not as the failure of transition, but the success of patriarchy in pushing women into masculine armor that shields them in a hostile, anti-effeminate society. peters also shows stunningly the problem of personhood in modern society: the idea that we must essentially "be something" to be someone. perhaps career, parenthood, creative pursuit these things define people in the face of others and give ontogical security in a way that is systematically denied to trans women. they cannot be people, their position is too precarious such that even getting a career and a family is considered the exception and is only held onto tenuously. the characters struggle to define themselves and always gesture at others, desperately defer to others to make them a person just to have it quickly withdrawn. this is not just trans women problem or a trans problem, its the problem with modern personhood and the depth of alienation that creates a hierarchy of person-ness. all in all super thoughtful, well executed and raw. highly recomended read and i look forward to reading more of what torrey peters has to offer.