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Alice Oseman: Loveless (Paperback, 2020, HarperCollins Publishers Limited) 4 stars

It was all sinking in. Id never had a crush on anyone. No boys, no …

Review of 'Loveless' on 'Storygraph'

5 stars

This book is a lovely, surprisingly quick and easy read, technically YA, but not too "teenagey" to be uninteresting/unbearable for adults who want to find out what discovering one's asexual and/or aromantic identity can feel like, and what an impact it might have on what one thought one's life would be like. (Note: This isn't in the least to say that this experience is similar for all people going through it. Personally, I could relate to the part that applies to myself despite having gone through the experience at a much later point.)

In a way, this book deals with all the tropes you can expect to find in a book about growing up and discovering your own identity: love (requited and unrequited) and romance, sexual desires, friendship, emotional confusion, family, school/uni. The interesting thing is that the narrator, Georgia, does not and, to her own dismay, cannot participate in two of these in the way she'd always dreamt she would. The hurt she causes by still trying to do so, and the hurt and grief she feels when realising she can't make herself be "normal" are very realistically described, I think. The author herself being aroace might have helped a lot with getting realism on an individual level in there.

But what is truly beautiful is the (really necessary) re-evaluation of friendship. "Just friends" is basically one of the worst phrases in human language - because platonic love as in a strong friendship isn't some kind of second-rate placebo for romantic love as in a relationship. Most people will not be with one partner "forever", but those of us who are really lucky will have a friend or two who'll stick around and lift us up again for all the failed "forevers" that tend to happen in a human life.

Generally, the awareness for asexual and aromantic identities has been increasing (despite there still being a lot of misconceptions going around) , but representation in the media in general is still scarce. Therefore this is something of a big thing because, during the book, we don't encounter only one aromantic and/or asexual character - there are four, and they are even somewhat diverse.
So go, read this, give it to a friend who might be struggling with not being able to fulfill the learnt social expectations of love, romance and sex, and let them know they aren't alone and broken. ;-)