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Emily Nagoski: Come As You Are (Paperback, imusti, Scribe UK) 5 stars

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As far as books that contain things I mostly know, this one was great. I think most of the ideas had already trickled to me through sex educator youtubes I watch. But I did not remember them in detail. And some of them are such that it's worth learning about them again and again in different contexts of your life. This book delivers really nice theoretical explanations along with ample examples of what it might look like in real life. Best way to impart science (or at least science based theories). The one thing I knew least about and might look to follow up on was the stress cycle. After finishing it I got the feeling that I want to make everyone read this book. And hopefully I will read it again.

Edit: I read it again, the next month. I love this book. It feels strangely personal, because a lot of the ideas in the book I have figured out either on my own or by hearing others retell the same research, or even this book in particular. And this lends credence to the few things I haven't yet figured out (like the stress response cycle thing). Thinking more on who I want to read this book, it's mostly my guy friends, because that feels like opportunity to let them see into my experience. But I'm also dubious if they'll have as much fun reading the book, because they might not relate to it so much as I did. I think this is my favorite sex ed book ever.

Edit: The book came out in Latvian and I gifted it to a few women and re-listened again to remember why I was so hyped about this book. I was more annoyed by some stylistic choices than the first few listens ("this book will..." no, it probably wont, for one I'm re-reading it, but even the first time it didn't entirely; "all you have learned about this is wrong" no, it isn't seeing how a lot of what I learned about "this" is from you in the first place; also piano background making the last parts of the book all sound like it's the end of the book and messing up my attention to it, another reason to maybe want a paper copy for myself) , but overall, still my favourite sex ed book, would recommend. Also, maybe I want one paper translation for myself just to see how some things were translated.