This book is nothing but garbage, and that is precisely where I'm putting it now that I've finally given in and finished reading it. I'm not sure how it is something that caught the attention of so many and became as popular as it was.

The overwhelming feeling that I have for this book is that both Oliver and Elio is that they're both abusers and manipulators. Oliver spends a ridiculous amount of time using emotionally abusive tactics against Elio; it feels like he spends some time gaslighting him as well, but he definitely spends a lot of time manipulating him. Elio spends a lot of time manipulating random female characters, particularly Marzia.

The biphobic tropes of promiscuity and inability to be faithful are also worth noting. It has issues of statutory rape, including Oliver (an adult man) preying upon a female student to seemingly make Elio jealous.

The whole book is weirdly classist. Oh, it has a few random ableist passages, too.