Courage To Be Disliked

This book is really eye opening for me. But I'd have to re-read the book multiple times in order to fully grasp the concepts / notions put forth in the book.

But after my first read, I'm not sure I agree on some points mentioned in the book. 1) Under the chapter "Don't fall for the 'Life-lie' of 8, the philosopher told the youth that the youth had the goal of disliking Mr. A from the start, and the youth started to find flaws to satisfy that goal. - I find this really challenging to grasp, especially if this is a situation where initially, if I had liked the person, but after going out with them for some time, I started to dislike them. How would that initial goal of disliking then come into play? 2) The denial of trauma Under the chapter "You hold the cards to interpersonal relationships" Pg 146, the philosopher told the youth that he had been hit by his father and at that time, and that fear became trauma to the philosopher at that time, till he came to know about alderian psychology. - I am aware the dialogue on this is fictitious, but applied to myself, my mother has a vicious tounge that takes personal jabs at me, even when I've done nothing, just that she's in a bad mood and I'm still living with her under the same roof, makes me wonder how the philosopher would think about the situation, where he'd have to face the father still beating him up everyday, would his stance on trauma change? It takes a great deal of effort to change ones outlook on the situation, if this is happening on a daily basis. This book is really eye opening for me. But I'd have to re-read the book multiple times in order to fully grasp the concepts / notions put forth in the book.

But after my first read, I'm not sure I agree on some points mentioned in the book. 1) Under the chapter "Don't fall for the 'Life-lie' of 8, the philosopher told the youth that the youth had the goal of disliking Mr. A from the start, and the youth started to find flaws to satisfy that goal. - I find this really challenging to grasp, especially if this is a situation where initially, if I had liked the person, but after going out with them for some time, I started to dislike them. How would that initial goal of disliking then come into play? 2) The book seems to disregard those who suffer from mental illness, because as these would indefinitely detract one from trying to be level headed and to have control over one's thoughts, but I'm assuming it'd be difficult since the brain would be predisposed to think otherwise. 3) The denial of trauma Under the chapter "You hold the cards to interpersonal relationships" Pg 146, the philosopher told the youth that he had been hit by his father and at that time, and that fear became trauma to the philosopher at that time, till he came to know about alderian psychology. - I am aware the dialogue on this is fictitious, but applied to myself, my mother has a vicious tounge that takes personal jabs at me, even when I've done nothing, just that she's in a bad mood and I'm still living with her under the same roof, makes me wonder how the philosopher would think about the situation, where he'd have to face the father still beating him up everyday, would his stance on trauma change? It takes a great deal of effort to change ones outlook on the situation, if this is happening on a daily basis.