Eduardo Santiago reviewed I Hope We Choose Love by Kai Cheng Thom
Review of 'I Hope We Choose Love' on 'Goodreads'
5 stars
Half of the book was impenetrable; half was a masterpiece. Half of me wanted to start it over the moment I finished, the other half wanted to move on. (We compromised: I flipped back and reread maybe a tenth.) This was a library copy; I’ve ordered my own so I can mark it up.
Thom gets it. She gets power structures and distractions and ambiguity. Responsibility, consent, nuance, storytelling. Asking the right questions. Aspects of life I know well, so her thoughtful perspective lends absolute credibility to her writings on what I don’t know as well or at all: it’s one thing to be peripherally aware of violence against trans women, a whole different thing to read Thom’s first-person experiences. Same with coming out, or mentoring/being mentored. How Thom navigates the world is quite different from anything I’ve ever experienced, and I can’t say that I understood her every message... …
Half of the book was impenetrable; half was a masterpiece. Half of me wanted to start it over the moment I finished, the other half wanted to move on. (We compromised: I flipped back and reread maybe a tenth.) This was a library copy; I’ve ordered my own so I can mark it up.
Thom gets it. She gets power structures and distractions and ambiguity. Responsibility, consent, nuance, storytelling. Asking the right questions. Aspects of life I know well, so her thoughtful perspective lends absolute credibility to her writings on what I don’t know as well or at all: it’s one thing to be peripherally aware of violence against trans women, a whole different thing to read Thom’s first-person experiences. Same with coming out, or mentoring/being mentored. How Thom navigates the world is quite different from anything I’ve ever experienced, and I can’t say that I understood her every message... but to be a better ally I will keep trying.
