Excellent set of essays, with such incredibly wide varying experiences. From people who never wanted kids to those who tried and tried, to those who regretted terminations to those who vehemently didn’t. Hope and grief and miscarriages and neices and nephews and privilege and struggle and joy and despair. Never assume anything.
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Delia reviewed Otherhood by Alie Benge
No right answers, no wrong ones either
4 stars
Excellent set of essays, with such incredibly wide varying experiences. From people who never wanted kids to those who tried and tried, to those who regretted terminations to those who vehemently didn’t. Hope and grief and miscarriages and neices and nephews and privilege and struggle and joy and despair. Never assume anything.
Delia finished reading Otherhood by Alie Benge
Best essays were near the end.
4 stars
I find his writing when peppered with anecdotes, a little irritating, because I guess the anecdotes feel dated, or irrelevant - and his writing, when mimicking his preaching, has an odd rhythm to it. (It’s wild to remember when his videos were popular in the churches I went to) But overall a good read, and the exhortation to consider first most, “why did people write it down”, and then, “why has it endured?” Is really valuable; opening up opportunity to be enriched by parts of scripture I would ordinarily skip over.
I find his writing when peppered with anecdotes, a little irritating, because I guess the anecdotes feel dated, or irrelevant - and his writing, when mimicking his preaching, has an odd rhythm to it. (It’s wild to remember when his videos were popular in the churches I went to) But overall a good read, and the exhortation to consider first most, “why did people write it down”, and then, “why has it endured?” Is really valuable; opening up opportunity to be enriched by parts of scripture I would ordinarily skip over.
Delia reviewed The Road by Cormac McCarthy
Mercifully short
2 stars
Well written and propulsive, but grim as, without much payoff? Who were the “good guys” and how were they able to survive, and why were they good?- it cannot just be a matter of not eating other humans. One review on the back of the book stated that it “serves as a warning”, but for what? Climate change? How, when everything was burned, were there still houses standing? I dunno, maybe post apocalyptic literature is just not my jam.
Delia finished reading The Road by Cormac McCarthy

The Road by Cormac McCarthy, Cormac Mccarthy
The Road is a 2006 post-apocalyptic novel by American writer Cormac McCarthy. The book details the grueling journey of a …
Delia reviewed Tangata Whenua by Atholl Anderson
The past matters. It matters now. It will matter again, and again.
5 stars
Stunning and in depth history of New Zealand that in parts weeps like an open wound. There were so many points of potential for us to have done things better. Dense with detail but with digestible chapters and a deep well of references and experience from the three authors.
Delia finished reading Tangata Whenua by Atholl Anderson
Delia reviewed Wavewalker by Suzanne Heywood
Trapped in someone else’s dream
4 stars
It’s clear in Suzanne’s telling of this story, that she doesn’t wish her parents ill. She describes the phenomenal and positive experiences that she got to have as well as the cost. It’s a great read and highlights how much simple encouragement at the right time can make a world of difference.
Delia finished reading Wavewalker by Suzanne Heywood
Delia reviewed Every Monument Will Fall by Dan Hicks
Never heard of militaristic realism and now I can’t stop thinking about it
5 stars
Listened on audiobook; I am not sure if I would have been able to plough through the academic density of it otherwise. It’s almost like a fish describing water- asking why, really, are we holding onto history so tightly from the 1800s? albeit from the heart of where it may arguably be at its most dense, his critique of colonial monuments, in all its different forms, is even more relevant for New Zealand I think. I finished the book while walking through the heart of Christchurch- a city that has literally had to determine which monuments we will let fall. The statue of cook has a faded Red Cross marked over him; while nearby Maori Pō commemorate Kai tahu heroes… I loved this book. I loved its challenge and it’s begging for us to remember how we remember, and the violence of neutrality. So I guess, what now, what next?
Listened on audiobook; I am not sure if I would have been able to plough through the academic density of it otherwise. It’s almost like a fish describing water- asking why, really, are we holding onto history so tightly from the 1800s? albeit from the heart of where it may arguably be at its most dense, his critique of colonial monuments, in all its different forms, is even more relevant for New Zealand I think. I finished the book while walking through the heart of Christchurch- a city that has literally had to determine which monuments we will let fall. The statue of cook has a faded Red Cross marked over him; while nearby Maori Pō commemorate Kai tahu heroes… I loved this book. I loved its challenge and it’s begging for us to remember how we remember, and the violence of neutrality. So I guess, what now, what next?
Delia finished reading Every Monument Will Fall by Dan Hicks
Delia finished reading The death of bees by Lisa O'Donnell

The death of bees by Lisa O'Donnell
Trying to keep the death of their parents a secret, Marnie and her little sister Nelly are on their own …











