The surprising new science that will transform your sex life
Published March 3, 2015 by Simon & Schuster, 1st Edition (March 3, 2015).
For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying …
For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.
That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.
My new mission in life is to make every man I know read this book. Or maybe I'll just spend the next five years screaming about responsive desire to anyone who approaches me. Either way, this book is amazing and made me feel so much more comfortable in my lack of interest in sex.
This book was written with a female audience in mind and I think it is super useful for any lady that wants to understand her sexuality better. But it's a good read independent of gender: I learned a couple of valuable, new concepts and it explained some of the instinctual ideas/behaviors that I had. :)
It's also an easy read: if you find the chapters too longwinded (happened to me), there's a summary at the end. I found myself reading the summary first and then, going back to parts of the chapter to understand the ideas better. It made reading the book more fun.
A few key takeaways:
You're perfectly normal. If it feels good, it's ok ;)
We, humans, all have the same parts, organized in different ways
Brakes and accelerators
Nonconcordance
* Responsive desire (arousal is a bit like curiosity)
