A Strange and Stubborn Endurance

I liked it!

First and foremost, though, it's a romance. Technically a romantasy but mostly a romance. The world building is... meh. Like it's there, they're clearly not on Earth, but it felt circumstantial rather than deliberate. So much set dressing for the romance. It's fine.

The plot is decent. It's a mystery. But again. This is a romance. The plot was there to provide conflict. Overall I'd say the plot is nothing to write home about. It was decently entertaining. It definitely got more interesting towards the end, which was appreciated.

The passage of time was sometimes difficult to keep track of. A lot happens in a very short period of time.

This sounds like damning with faint praise but what's important is that the romance was very very good--good romantic development, paced well. Despite some anguish on characters' parts, I never felt like I wanted to shake someone for being overly oblivious. And if you want a queer romance book, I highly recommend it.

Stolen me? As well to say a caged bird can be stolen by the sky.

I'll be honest, my main thought finishing this book was this: "It would have been so much better if it didn't have the entire external plot with the murders." And that's not because I'm against fantasy murder mysteries with court intrigue, or high-stakes situations mixing into slow burn romance. On the contrary, I absolutely love those things! But the way they were handled in this story was just—so incredibly off. Honestly, it felt like the author somehow decided they absolutely needed a high-stakes mystery and intrigue plot to go with the romance and healing, and so they produced one by the skin of their teeth.

And like... the book didn't really need that, you know? It already had plenty going on! This is a story of surviving sexual assault and healing from it; it's a slow-burn arranged marriage romance; it's a story of cultures clashing and of having to adapt to a completely new normal. That's quite enough. This could be a wonderful slice-of-life take on all those themes, with external conflict coming from interpersonal relationships, and with many more chances to explore the worldbuilding beyond basically just affirming over and over that Tithena is this queernorm, overall inclusive paradise that poses a sharp contrast to the patriarchal hell of Vel's homeland. The book kind of attempted to dig deeper into the nuances, but because it was trying to do more things than I think it needed to and because it kept swinging back and forth between all kinds of thing, losing focus... well. It didn't quite work. And honestly, all that mystery subplot only raised more questions about how the country functioned. I can't be the only one who kept thinking, "But don't you have any special people you can assign to investigate this?" <spoiler>And really, the entire subplot with the investigation ultimately turned out to be so unnecessary, given that the culprit was found entirely by accident. The work the main characters put into solving the mystery didn't even pay off.</spoiler>

Other than raising more questions about Tithena's culture and politics than it answered, this external plot also just plain stood in the way of the developing relationship between Vel and Cae. I really liked the relationship, by the way! I liked both character arcs. I liked the way they both handled the weight of Vel's trauma, and how overall sensitively handled his recovery was: an authentic, nonlinear process with its ups and downs. I wanted a closer focus on this bumpy road, but every time they got a bit closer, something immediately happened connected to the murdery plot. Usually, someone just flat out got attacked. It was getting a bit ridiculous by the second time it happened, and the second time wasn't the last.

So, yeah. I would have absolutely adored the world out of this book if it was a healing + new culture story with a slowly, slowly developing romance and lower-stakes interpersonal drama. Because I loved those parts. I loved the undeniably "hurt/comfort fanfiction" feel of the storytelling of those parts, and this is something I'm saying as high praise here. There's this highly specific set of tropes, themes, and feels that can be find rather easily in fanfic land but seldom blooms in original fiction, and this? This is exactly it, and so well done. I loved the characters, and not just the main leads (Markel stole my heart especially). I loved so many things this book could have been, if only the pesky murders didn't constantly get in the way. But alas, they did, and so what could have been a total five-star favorite is... probably not going to even be a four-star read, if I'm very honest with myself :(

This really didn't do it for me! I think part of that is that I'm not wild about romances and this was a romance. A big complaint for me is that the romantic leads behave so constantly and consistently we've-been-to-therapy correctly towards each other that I found their interactions tedious and didactic. It felt moralizing to me ("observe, this is the correct way to handle an emotion"), but I think it was intended to be more of a wish fulfillment love story ("imagine if you dated someone this emotionally mature"). Also everyone is described as being super hot and I did not enjoy that.

The heroes behaved perfectly in every situation and the villains were over-the-top horrible in every situation, and even though the moral stakes were ones I agree with (don't sexually assault people, don't be homophobic, don't murder people), I was put off by the black-and-white-ness of the characters.

While the author has put a lot of thought into gender and sexuality, even if I found it ultimately shallow, I found the near total absence of a critique of power and class to be pretty uncomfortable.

That said, it wasn't hard to read, and if you wanted a comforting romance about healing from assault (which, fair warning, is very graphic, though not imo gratuitous), it might be for you. And I really liked that the protagonists spend the whole book trying to solve a mystery and do an absolutely abysmal job at it.

First book of the year, and what a time it was! This has been on my shelf for some time now, and I had tried to crack it open in the past but found the opener a bit too cumbersome to be able to fully launch myself into. That being said once I got over that initial hurdle, I was hooked.

As others have said, this story kicks off with a brutal depiction of an assault to the lead, and thereafter the narrative focuses on his trauma and halting recovery in the midst of a political tangle he’s stumbled into from a surprising betrothal to the brother of the woman he’s originally conscripted to.

I usually detest slow burns (especially ones by way of arranged marriage) but I quite enjoyed this one. Both of the leading fellas are charming and fun, and the progression of the romance felt natural. All I can say is that as long as you know what you’re getting into, you’ll probably have a good time.

A STRANGE AND STUBBORN ENDURANCE is one of my favorite things I’ve read all year, in a year where I’ve already read more than two hundred books. It might be my favorite arranged/political marriage book, if it’s not the winner it’s at least in good company. It’s instantly achieved the rank of my favorite fantasy book dealing with rape (a strange category to have, but as I make a podcast dealing with fictional depictions of trauma, an almost necessary category to be aware of).  If you’re uncomfortable with that content, please choose another book, with my best wishes, as this deals with the actual event and long aftermath of a (graphic but brief) sexual assault by someone who until very recently was the victim’s romantic partner. 

There are two major countries, one of which is barely shown but heavily felt (Ralia), and the other is where almost all of the story takes place (Tithena). That means the reader's main understanding of Ralia is through Velasin's recollections and Tithenai gossip. The story's focus on Velasin's arranged marriage to a man, combined with Ralian homophobia, means that most descriptions of Ralia are unflattering, focusing on much that Velasin was unable to freely do in his former country. Most of the story is set in Tithena, in or around Caethari's home (now Velasin's new home). This allows the opportunity for both the official Tithenian line and the reality to appear side by side in a way that doesn't happen for Ralia. It makes it clear that even though Tithena is more egalitarian in many respects, 

Velasin and his soon-to-be husband, Caethari, are the two narrators. I love Velasin and Caethari, both separately and together. However, unlike most books with dual narrators, this gives each narrator several chapters in a row before switching to the other. This helps with immersion into each man's perspective, and means that in this emotionally fraught story based on a colossal and nearly catastrophic misunderstanding, the reader doesn't get an immediate narrative resolution merely by switching to the other person. They're very different people, something which really gets to shine when Velasin gets more comfortable and begins turning his people skills and political mind to the mystery at hand.

We meet Velasin on the road, almost immediately reaching his father's home after fleeing his unfaithful partner (and accompanied by Markel, his servant and friend). Upon his arrival he's notified by his father of his impending arranged marriage to a Tithenai woman. Moments later his former partner arrives, having pursued him, then assaults him. After his father and the Tithenai envoy walk in on them (not understand that it was rape), the envoy offers him a marriage to a man instead. He accepts with as little consent as was involved in the former arrangement, and then travels to Tithena, where the rest of the plot unfolds. 

Markel is Velasin's servant and best friend. He's mute, using signs, writing, and other non-verbal signals to communicate with Velasin (and anyone else who'll learn). I like Markel, and he gets a lot of space in Velasin's thoughts, but not quite as much in the actual narrative (as he spends much of it recovering from a very serious injury). He's very important to the story, playing much more of a role before he's attacked and after he's mostly recovered. 

Caethari wasn't expecting to be the one getting married, since Ralia's endemic homophobia is well-known in Tithena. Tithenia as a country is so casually queer that saying it's more accepting of queerness than Ralia does a disservice in the comparison. It is not, however, free of other problems. Before Caethari can greet Velasin, the incoming party is attacked and their introduction is made under rather stressful circumstances.

The rest of the plot weaves together a series of strange and possibly politically-motivated attacks, investigations of the same, Velasin's internal struggles, Caethari's attempts to help, and many long conversations about cultural differences which range from extremely serious to mere curiosities. There's also the lingering threat that Velasin's attacker might pursue him further, a (not unfounded) worry which complicates his recovery. I was a bit overwhelmed by the sheer number of characters, but I'm generally terrible with names and was still able to track most of what was happening. Much of the narrative is structured like a mystery, where they're trying to figure out the person or group behind the attacks and don't know who they can trust. This is interwoven with Velasin and Caethari getting to know each other, and Velasin's introductions to Caethari's family and a few other important persons. 

Read this for a kind of mystery story, full of political machinations, focused on recovery from trauma in a situation where bad things are still happening.