What makes therapy challenging is that it requires people to see themselves in ways they normally choose not to. A therapist will hold up the mirror in the most compassionate way possible, but it’s up to the patient to take a good look at that reflection, to stare back at it and say, “Oh, isn’t that interesting! Now what?” instead of turning away.
This is definitely the sort of book that leaves a lasting impression. On one hand, I can't say I've learned anything profoundly new; I've been in therapy for a long time, and I've been interested in the matters of psychology and mental health since my late teens. On the other hand, there were plenty of little moments that made me reexamine the familiar things from brand-new angles and arrive to new conclusions. It was also really interesting to see therapy sessions unfold from the …
What makes therapy challenging is that it requires people to see themselves in ways they normally choose not to. A therapist will hold up the mirror in the most compassionate way possible, but it’s up to the patient to take a good look at that reflection, to stare back at it and say, “Oh, isn’t that interesting! Now what?” instead of turning away.
This is definitely the sort of book that leaves a lasting impression. On one hand, I can't say I've learned anything profoundly new; I've been in therapy for a long time, and I've been interested in the matters of psychology and mental health since my late teens. On the other hand, there were plenty of little moments that made me reexamine the familiar things from brand-new angles and arrive to new conclusions. It was also really interesting to see therapy sessions unfold from the other side of the coach, and to see a therapist as a patient.
I absolutely loved the way the narrative unfolded, too; how both Lori and her clients came in with relatively small-scale problems, for the most part, then dug deeper into the large-scale ones hiding underneath, and then arrived into proper existential crises—and figured out their paths through those, one way or another. The book is filled with relentless compassion, kindness, and humanity, and it left me with a strong reminder that if a problem doesn't seem solvable, perhaps you're solving the wrong problem. Or at the very least, perhaps there are other problems you can solve that will make the big central thing easier to live with and change your perception of it.
In a way, I picked up this book because I'm going through a hard time and I wanted more tools to figure out my pain and the methods of dealing with it. I can't say it worked—which isn't surprising, I was just reading a book about people whose problems aren't just like mine, I wasn't sitting in front of a therapist. But it definitely has given me more tools to poke at my pain with while I wait until I can afford therapy again.
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5 stars
Gottlieb offers a candid look into the life of a therapist and patient. I learned a great deal about myself as I read through each chapter and found that I resonate far more with the many patients she describes than I ever thought I would. It's all about the human condition, and most of us experience similar things -- even if those things manifest in various ways and different times in our lives.
Gottlieb offers a candid look into the life of a therapist and patient. I learned a great deal about myself as I read through each chapter and found that I resonate far more with the many patients she describes than I ever thought I would. It's all about the human condition, and most of us experience similar things -- even if those things manifest in various ways and different times in our lives.
I am a newbie in the world of therapy and counseling. I never considered it in the veins of the gym or workout for physical health. The quarantine was a big awakening to keep my mental health sound and fit. Work seems to chase forever shrouded with a lot of gloom and uncertainty. I had my share of frustration and anxiety.
This book is a part-memoir giving a peek behind the scenes at therapy. Some stories were poignant, shocking, and exhilarating.
If you, like me, are getting started into the mental health space, this book is a good entry point.
Review of 'Maybe you should talk to someone : a therapist, her therapist, and our lives revealed' on 'Goodreads'
5 stars
This was a thoroughly enjoyable listen (I listened to the audiobook while wandering in the city) - made me laugh out loud more than once, moved me quite a bit. It may feel quite meandering at times, but I actually enjoyed the detours as much as the "core stories".
This was a thoroughly enjoyable listen (I listened to the audiobook while wandering in the city) - made me laugh out loud more than once, moved me quite a bit. It may feel quite meandering at times, but I actually enjoyed the detours as much as the "core stories".
Review of 'Maybe you should talk to someone : a therapist, her therapist, and our lives revealed' on 'Goodreads'
3 stars
I've never kicked a patient or danced with one, but I've played guitar and explained how to do something in html. This is an easy to read explanation of what psychotherapy is like which I only picked up because a patient of mine was reading it. I'm glad she is because it often seems that she has no idea what we're doing during a session and reading this may help somewhat.
I'm a little mistrusting of the author who I suspect would edit her "true" stories to make them better but other times I'm envious of how she claims her treatments have gone.
I've never kicked a patient or danced with one, but I've played guitar and explained how to do something in html. This is an easy to read explanation of what psychotherapy is like which I only picked up because a patient of mine was reading it. I'm glad she is because it often seems that she has no idea what we're doing during a session and reading this may help somewhat.
I'm a little mistrusting of the author who I suspect would edit her "true" stories to make them better but other times I'm envious of how she claims her treatments have gone.
Review of 'Maybe you should talk to someone : a therapist, her therapist, and our lives revealed' on 'Goodreads'
3 stars
A decently insightful read about the process of therapy. The therapist is dripping with privilege in talking about this "the thing holding you back is you" trope. Luckily, the client stories are endearing.
A decently insightful read about the process of therapy. The therapist is dripping with privilege in talking about this "the thing holding you back is you" trope. Luckily, the client stories are endearing.